Separations with children. Conflicts, violence, manipulation
A book by by Marie-France Hirigoyen
Summary by Else Marit Inderberg
When parents separate, the child, who occupies a large place in the family, often becomes the central issue in conflicts. The child's suffering is not so much linked to the breakup itself as to the way it happens. Despite good intentions, parents, overwhelmed by their own emotions, sometimes struggle to spare their children. The most harmful effects are observed when, in a context of violent interaction, one of the parents (sometimes both) takes the child as a witness, fueling the child's sense of helplessness.
Supported by clinical experience, Marie-France Hirigoyen explains the dangers to those at the heart of the conflict and proposes solutions, both at the family, political and legal levels, to better protect the children. Rich in testimonies, descriptions of real-life situations, practical advice, and expert analysis, this book is aimed at all parents who are going through separation or are already separated. It is also intended to be a tool for professionals, including lawyers, judges and magistrates, social workers, psychiatrists or psychologists. The stakes are high: protecting children and teaching them a peaceful way of communicating is tantamount to protecting the future.
The book is written in French: https://www.editionsladecouverte.fr/separations_avec_enfants-9782348080517